Tag: men

Finding love

Emma the MizfitLeave a comment

How does one truly find love? Now I am not talking about the love of family, friends or even the love of God. Though all these are important, I am speaking of love from a partner.

I believe there must be a connection to the person, whether that be a person that is attractive to you by some sort of beauty, personality, a quality that makes them more outstanding than others.

I am one that personally goes by the smile I see on a man. For me a man that has a beautiful smile is absolutely a must. Not anything other than the fact that when a man has a genuine beautiful smile it usually means he will make me smile. I love to smile and I love to have someone that makes me laugh.

In a world filled with so much darkness it’s nice to have a companion that can make you smile. Smiling can change anyone’s day. It’s like walking into work and passing by a coworker that greets you with a genuine smile and says have a beautiful day. Somehow that makes you feel better, it brightens your day, it lightens your mood. Did that coworker know all that m, probably not nor did they probably think about it. But that coworker just changed your day. I use this as an example because it has happened to me and I am sure it has happened to you. It’s why I always speak about smiling because you never know whose day you might change just by a smile.

So this brings me back to love a smile is a definite for me. I have not found love yet and maybe when I find it I will know. It is extremely hard to find love today for the simple fact many men search for beauty, youthful girls and I cannot compete with a 20 year old. That just isn’t happening I have accepted that and I am completely fine with that. There are a lot of things girls that are single will do that I won’t. I have respect for myself and expect the same from the man I date.

There has to be more than just a smile that connects two people. There has to be more than attractiveness that connects two people. Both are fleeting and won’t make anything last.

There has to be things other than outside appearances that connect two people to truly make you find that connection. Common goals, common dreams, common beliefs, these are things I truly believe make connections last longer. Leading to the path of find love. Being able to have conversations with that person about anything because you trust them. Or even sit in silence with that person that is a connection very few have.

Love is a feeling. I love music, I love writing, I love walking dogs, I love playing with dogs, I love the seasons and when they change, I love Christmas, I love roses and how they are full of thorns. I love having conversations with men and learning about what they like and don’t like. I love hearing about passions. I love being myself and I love finding someone whom I can be myself with. I love a lot of things.

So I guess finding love is somewhere in between all that. Love is more than just feeling it’s also having that connection with a person. Going through the pain, happiness, sadness together that is love. Have I found it, not yet. But one can never lose hope. Hope is eternal and I like to keep hope alive always.

Fate/Destiny

Emma the MizfitLeave a comment

Do you believe in fate/destiny?

I do believe in destiny/fate. I believe people come and go in your life the way they are supposed to and leave you learning the lessons you needed to learn. Now does that change the choices we make I don’t believe so. I see it from the perspective that God knows everything. He has already seen how everything will play out and knows exactly how we will choose. He doesn’t stop us from making our own decisions but He already knows the outcome. When we give ourselves to Him completely we are giving into a power beyond ourselves. We are allowing Him to direct us down the path we should go. It’s a form of fate and destiny because we have given Him ourselves to His direction. So I do believe fate plays in our lives just not the way we think it might be playing.

Dragon Stole My Heart: written by Emmanuelle-Rose Grace

Emma the MizfitLeave a comment

The other side of the world, I still think of you

Coming from two different cultures I still want you

Knowing that it will never be a possibility I still wish for it

Seeing your smile brightens my day

Seeing you laugh, makes me feel

Giddy like I want to play

I dream of the day I get to kiss you

I dream of the day I get to touch you

I dream of your laughter in my ear

My fingers running through your black hair

My hands touching your white pale skin

It’s only in my dreams that I get to see you

It’s only in my dreams that I get to be with you

To hear your laugh, to touch your skin, to feel your lips

The day may never come, that I may never get to do any of these things

But for now, as I fall asleep, I know that I will get to see you there. Good night my sweet Babe

Ordinary World: Duran Duran

Emma the MizfitLeave a comment

Came in from a rainy Thursday on the avenue

Thought I heard you talking softly

I turned on the lights, the TV, and the radio

Still I can’t escape the ghost of you

What has happened to it all?

Crazy, some’d say

Where is the life that I recognise? (Gone away)

But I won’t cry for yesterday

There’s an ordinary world

Somehow I have to find

And as I try to make my way

To the ordinary world

I will learn to survive

Passion or coincidence once prompted you to say

“Pride will tear us both apart”

Well, now pride’s gone out the window

Cross the rooftops, run away

Left me in the vacuum of my heart

What is happening to me?

Crazy, some’d say

Where is my friend when I need you most? (Gone away)

But I won’t cry for yesterday

There’s an ordinary world

Somehow I have to find

And as I try to make my way

To the ordinary world

I will learn to survive

Ooh-ooh-ooh-ooh

Ahh-ah-ahh

Away-ay, ay-ay-ay-ay

Oh, oh

Papers in the roadside tell of suffering and greed

Fear today, forgot tomorrow

Ooh-ooh

Here besides the news of holy war and holy need

Ours is just a little sorrowed talk

And I don’t cry for yesterday

There’s an ordinary world

Somehow I have to find

And as I try to make my way

To the ordinary world

I will learn to survive

(Every world is my world)

I will learn to survive

(Any world is my world)

I will learn to survive

(Any world is my world)

(Every world is my world)

Advice to my teen self…

Emma the MizfitLeave a comment

What advice would you give to your teenage self?

The advice I would give myself as a teenager would be, “don’t allow anyone to control you. That starts by learning to not react to others. Learn self discipline and learn to control yourself. Learn that you can’t change anyone. Learn that you can’t control the circumstances of life. Learn to grow from each situation. Each thing that happens in life will be for a reason, even if you can’t see that now. Allowing your emotions to cloud your mind, leads to you making choices you might never have chosen if you had a clear mind. So allow yourself time to reflect. Allow yourself time to hurt. Allow yourself time to be alone, away from others. Allow yourself to be comfortable in the quietness of yourself. Never give anyone the power over you and that can only start by controlling yourself. Most of all don’t forget that no matter what, you are never truly alone. God will always be with you.”

Growing old

Emma the MizfitLeave a comment

What were your parents doing at your age?

Getting older and sicker as they grow old. We take our parents for granted forgetting one day they will no longer be around. I want to enjoy as much time with them before they are gone. Hear all the stories of the past and learn things from each memory they share with me. Keep and cherish our time together. Because tomorrow isn’t promised but today we can hold onto each other and share the moment.

Evil is what you are…

Emma the MizfitLeave a comment

Yesterday another shooter with gun in a “church”. It’s not the guns fault a lunatic decided to shoot a church. It’s not the fault of the gun that a lunatic decided he was going to shoot Christians. It wasn’t the guns fault a lunatic decided to point the gun into people just because they don’t believe his stupid ideology. I am sick and tired of people constantly blaming guns. It’s not the guns. The problem stems from the lack of God in people’s lives. This lunatic decided to do this because they are evil. Evil exists and instead of calling it evil we paint a brush over it calling it mental illness. This isn’t just a mental health problem it’s a problem that is based in a society that has completely forgotten its moral foundation. Our society lacks the basic morals of a functioning society. It saddens me that people use the tag mental health when this is evil. This man was evil, what he did was evil. He has no morals. He has no humanity for the life of other people. He deserves to be in cage all his life and treated like the animal he is. Evil is not mental illness nor is mental illness evil. If you have a mental health issue and decide to not get help but to continue to live in a delusional world, encouraged by people feeding into your delusions, you are evil and so are they. It’s time people start holding this evil accountable and stop blaming everyone in the mental health community. This lunatic is evil and I pray to God that people learn a lesson from this man. He is evil and everyone that encourages this type of behavior is just as evil. #eviliswhatyouare

Changing laws

Emma the MizfitLeave a comment

If you had the power to change one law, what would it be and why?

If I had the power to change one law it would be every United States Citizen can carry a gun no matter what state. No matter where, inside the USA every citizen that has not committed a crime should be able to carry. I think this alone will not only benefit the country it will also help females. Especially from getting killed or raped if they were allowed to carry. A civil free society is one that knows every citizen can carry a gun. People are less likely to commit a crime if they don’t know if anyone else is carrying a weapon. Again this is based on my belief that God grants us the right to free speech as well the right to bear arms. It should not be decided by anyone else. We are constitutional republic and our constitution specifically states God grants this right, not the state, not the government nor any politician. This is a right we all have and should constantly be fighting for. For a citizen without the right to protect themselves allows for us to become completely dependent on the government which we know is corrupt.

Favorite Candy

Emma the MizfitLeave a comment

What’s your favorite candy?

Favorite candy that’s a hard one. I love smarties they are my favorite. They are pure sugar and are so not good for you. But I did love them and are probably still my favorite candy. I don’t eat a lot of candy. I have chocolate in moderation but candy I really don’t eat anymore.